Women tend to be more attracted to married men than single guys. The reasons for this vary, from the outrageous and weird, to the illogical and silly.

Here are some of the reasons women would do anything to bag a married man:

Responsibility: Marriage comes with responsibilities. The man has mouths to feed and bills to pay. He has decisions to make and many more other responsibilities. As such, a married man is socialised to be responsible. He will not show up at your doorstep with only condoms, but will be thoughtful enough to get you some grocery, maybe milk, some sugar and bread for tea as he settles in.

A married man knows that a woman needs to apply some lotion, do her nails, style her hair and once in a while, slip into a gorgeous dress. And he knows what a facial or French manicure is, after all, he lives with a woman. But God, single guys! These are the most clueless, needy, demanding and selfish species of men.

Sexual healing: A married man has mastered the map of a woman’s body. He knows every contour and how to navigate the pleasurable spots. Seduction is his second nature and he can make even the ugliest woman feel like she deserves the Miss Universe crown. And when it comes to bedminton; a married man knows when to play and foreplay, go slow, thrust, rev things up or idle; There is no way he is going to leave you high and dry. Besides, nothing beats the thrill of something illicit! The very fact that bedding a married man is frowned upon could trigger your hormones into a raging rush like a waterfall.

Unlike the single guy who will invite you to his place, make you cook to look wifely, bore you with crap and expect you to perform judo in bed; the married man will give you that unexpected call, probably ask you to drop by at his office and then proceed do it with you in his office or in the car! Sparks! Spontaneity does magic when it comes to sex.

Competition: Women are weird and cunning. They would date a married man just to prove to the other woman that ‘I can take him’. The fact that a man who has another woman pursues her is exciting and makes her feel like a winner in a non-existent battle, because the wife probably does not even know you exist. Men often fuel this superiority complex by lying to these women about their wives.

Statements like, “That one cannot cook, she is ugly and I only married her because my parents forced me, you are better in bed,’ blah, blah, blah are total balderdash. A man who rubbishes his wife to gain your favour is a fool. If he wants you, let him just say “I want you but I have a very beautiful and dutiful wife,” Simple!

The truth is that 90 per cent of these married men will not leave their wives for you. If she was so pathetic, he wouldn’t have married her in the first place, so stop expecting much. Just take your position and relax. Enjoy it while you can. Just because you are still young and supple does not make you better than the wife, if anything, respect her because she cleaned the guy and that is why you want him now.

Loose strings attached: There is nothing like ‘no strings attached.’ There will always be strings and they will always be attached if sex is involved. The strings might be loose, but they sure will be there. Talk of less ties, that is, you do not have to see him every day and he does not get to dictate how you live your life. Technically, you have plenty of time to hang out with your girls and generally do your stuff with minimal interference, unlike the wife who will have to ask for permission before she can visit her mother.

In addition, you will be free of the single guy who will be calling every now and then with silly questions like. Baby uli kuti? Ukutani, Ulindindani?

The married man is too busy either with work or family to monitor and grill you like the anti-terror police.

This is not about whether it is morally wrong or right to date a married man. We have people with very good stepmothers who dated their married fathers, and we have others whose families were ruined by the other woman. It all depends on individuals and their intentions. At the end of the day, God gave us the gift of choice. Choose your path wisely.