For a guy, there’s always that awkward moment at the end of a first date…
Where he’s not really sure if he should go for the kiss, play it safe with a hug, or just stand there with his lips out and pray for the best.
Here’s a guest article from founder of The Social Man, Christian H., about a terrific way to end a date that makes it highly likely a woman will want to see him again.
The New York dating scene is crazy.
I’ve learned a lot from six years of dating some of the most beautiful girls in the city, and today I want to drop a really cool tip on you.
Many of the women I’ve dated have had guys offer them the world.
Private flights to Caribbean islands…hot tub parties at the Trump Tower…and I just can’t compete on that level.
So I figured out how to attract a woman on a much deeper level – an evolutionary level.
And now whenever I see one of these jokers try to bribe a girl into going out with him, all I think is “what a chump.”
See, if a man wants a girlfriend – especially a beautiful, desirable girl who all the guys are chasing – he can’t play by the same rules every other guy is playing by.
He has to activate a part of her desire that gets her obsessed with him.
So I developed a step-by-step system for doing just that…from the moment I meet her, all the way until she’s my girlfriend.
In just a second, I’m going to reveal exactly how to end the first date.
This is usually an awkward moment for a lot of guys.
Does he hug her? Kiss her on the lips? Ask her back to his place?
Well, MOST guys either get nervous and fumble this…or go straight for the kiss on the lips.
And this is IMPORTANT: she’s expecting him to do either of those things.
But remember – if he wants to get her obsessing over him, he has to be different. He has to make her wonder about him.
Because if she’s wondering about him…and spending her time thinking about him…then she’s *not* thinking about another guy.
He’s the one who’s taking up mental space in her head.
It’s a funny little way to “hack” her evolutionary programming.
Think of it this way: if there are two guys she’s dating – Joe and Mike – and she knows Joe likes her, but isn’t certain if Mike likes her, she’ll naturally spend more time thinking about Mike.
She’ll think…
“Gosh, every other guy on planet earth just falls for me so easily…but not Mike. What did I do wrong? Why didn’t I win him over?”
So even if a guy is competing against the “bigger better deal” – a guy with more money, better looks, etc. – it’s actually pretty easy to be the guy who she can’t help but think about…and obsess over…and fall for.
I’ve got a step-by-step system that ANY guy can use to do this. Watch the video here.
Here’s how to use it to end the first date…
As you’re putting her in the taxi, or dropping her off at her house, lean in for the kiss… *but go straight for her cheek.*
Don’t even try for the lips.
Then pull away, look her dead in the eyes, and with a wry little smile on your face, say…
“I had a great time with you tonight. We might just have to do this again sometime.”
And leave it at that.
Don’t say, “I hope I see you again” or try to get her to commit to another date.
What I found – because it’s what every woman told me – is that by doing this, it leaves her guessing:
“Does he like me?”
When a guy gets nervous and fumbles the kiss…or when he goes straight for the kiss on the lips…she knows what’s up. No more mystery.
She thinks…
“Ok, he likes me. I could have him if I wanted him. The power is mine.”
But when he is the one to go for the kiss on the cheek, and he wryly tells her that “maybe” he’ll have to hang out again, it leaves an unanswered question in her mind.
So she’s thinking about him for the rest of the night…and the next day.
Believe it or not, this uncertainty actually FEELS really good for her.
The emotional ups and downs release an addictive chemical in her brain (dopamine) that she associates with him.
Think of your last crush on a girl…
You weren’t certain if she liked you or not…but every time you heard from her and got a “hint” that she might feel the same way about you, you got a rush of positive emotions.
Addictive, right?
And the more she’s thinking about YOU – the more that you take up space in her mind – the more addicted and obsessed she becomes.
It’s by doing stuff like this that I’ve been able to date the 10s that every guy wants.
And if a guy starts doing stuff like this, he’ll be the one who’s in control of the entire dating process.
Because he’s using principles of psychology that evolution has wired her to be attracted to.
It doesn’t matter who his competition is – if other guys aren’t doing this stuff, he’ll win, plain and simple.
I think this stuff is fascinating, and it’s incredible how easy it is to get a great girlfriend when a guy knows these secrets and how to control the process.
But that’s just the beginning. There’s so much more a guy can do to attract the woman he wants.
There are phrases he can say, texts he can send, and subtle actions he can use to trigger attraction much more powerfully than just a kiss on the cheek after the first date.
And because most women find it hard to resist a man who stands out from every other guy who approaches and talks to her, it’s worth learning a few of these emotional trigger points.
If that sounds like fun, click here to watch an exciting new video that shows men exactly how to turn a cold girl into a loving, loyal girlfriend.
It’s something he can learn once, but then use for the rest of his life.
Here’s the link again:
How He Can Turn A Cold Girl Into A Loving, Loyal Girlfriend
Source: lifeherway
