After a breakup, we find it really hard to move on. Most of us don’t even want to move on, we start to think about a lot of things. Like the stress of starting all over again.

So we start to sell ourselves some lies. Don’t let the aftermath of a breakup make you believe in these lies.

1. “My ex must not have ever really loved me, this relationship must not have meant anything to them.”

Another common belief among those hoping to learn how to get over a breakup is that their relationship was a farce.

But, odds are, anyone who stayed with you did, in fact, love you; why would they have stuck around, otherwise?

Rarely does a relationship end because there was no love involved; instead, it ends because there was a mismatch in values or deep breakdown in communication. In the off chance that the relationship truly didn’t mean anything to them, then that’s their loss.

Better to know it meant something to you and that the time was not wasted.

3. “I can’t afford to take another 30 or 45 years to find another person who is just as good. I don’t have it in me.”

On the surface, this belief already seems like an exaggeration. Odds are, it didn’t take you 30 years to find your first love — unless you started dating in utero.

Instead, it took you that long to gain the emotional maturity to be ready for a relationship. Now that you’ve gained it, it’s not going anywhere.

Creating a new relationship that is better than the old one is going to be much easier because you’ll be standing on the shoulders of the previous ones.

If the relationship ended, It means it was meant to end. You can’t force a person to remain in love with you but you can’t find a way to move on after the relationship has ended.

So, try not to sell yourselves on these 3 Lies and with time, you will move on.