‘I have been having great s*x with a younger guy from work. I would like nothing better than to leave my husband for him but he’s married too. My husband and I have been together for 23 years. We met when I was a student of 19. He was 22 and seemed a man of the world. I was bowled over.

I did not realise that what I saw as grown-up and masterful was actually a controlling nature. My job involves liaising with employees in other departments. One guy was particularly attentive. He always noticed what I wore and when I’d had my hair done.

I suppose the attention and flattery went to my head. I found excuses to go and chat with him more often.

We started spending lunch hours together and he soon suggested buying a sandwich and going to a hotel instead. That is what we started to do every single Monday and Friday.

I could not believe how exciting and satisfying s*x could be. I don’t think it was ever like that with my husband. I love my husband in a way but I am not in love with him. He has always been such a jealous man. I am not allowed to go out with girlfriends or visit my family as often as I would like.

It is important to me to have a good sex life and a life of my own, rather than just doing what my husband wants. I am 44 now and our two sons are grown up. One is living with his girlfriend and the other one is in the Army.

My new man is 29 and married with a daughter of three. We have tried to stop seeing one another but we always go back on our decision after a week or two.

I am prepared to walk away from my marriage with nothing and my lover is prepared to walk away from his if I will — so why do I hesitate?’